Self-Care: How do you care for yourself?

I struggled with this for a long time.  I try my hardest to be a selfless person.  I didn’t realize that I was standing in my own way and that self-care was far less an issue of selfishness and much more a necessity.

I began asking myself, what do I like to do?  The answer to this question seemed to always involve another person, or the role that I played in someone’s life.  The answer never quite returned with “I do this because I want to do it for myself.”  This discovery led me to really uncover who I really was.

I found that I had been defined by my role as mother, fiance, Soldier, NCO and all of the other labels and positions that I had placed on me by other people.  I was stuck in my roles.  I thought that I was being true to myself by honoring these roles when at the end of the day, there was nothing left for me to give to myself.

I was dreadfully empty.

There is so much more to me and who I am than what I am or whose I am.  I had to relearn and rethink my idea of ownership and take back my life.  I wasn’t in super bad shape, but probably because I was able to catch it before it completely consumed me.

I had to take time and redefine myself.  I wanted to be able to look in the mirror and know exactly who that girl was.  I could barely answer the question “What do you like to do?” and that was, for me, unacceptable.

Through this journey (which was part of my self-love journey) I was able to identify activities that I could engage in both alone and with others that truly brought me joy and peace.

I came across this AWESOME list and I thought it was definitely worth sharing!!  Check it out! I’d love to hear your feedback on what some of your favorite self-care methods are!

Feel free to comment below!!

 

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